How’s it going readers of Fueled? I’m the new guy around here so I thought I’d take a second to introduce myself. My name is Josh Jensen and I’m just a small-town kid that’s passionate about life. I’m not an expert or even the best at anything but I love every aspect of my life. I’m excited to be able to write for you guys and hopefully my experiences and observations can intrigue you and help you along your journey. Now let’s get into the good stuff. Today’s topic is, that there’s no such thing as self-made.
A lot of people who are, “self-made” claim it’s because they didn’t have any support and were even attacked along their journey. Those things are inevitable, but they shape us. Whether we believe what negative people say or ignore it. I remember when I was in seventh grade, in a class we were talking about goals and we were all asked to stand up and tell the class what our big long-term goals were. There were the generic, answers you’d expect from kids in the seventh grade. Things like becoming a doctors, lawyers, and soldiers. When it was my turn, I proudly said that I wanted to wrestle in college. Everyone thought it was a weird goal and some of the more "knowledgeable" twelve-year old’s after class even told me that only super talented athletes competed in college. I ignored that negativity, continued down my road (that I would learn had hundreds of potholes) and six years later, I signed my NLI to wrestle for the University of Mary. Those negative people made me want to prove them wrong and lit my fire. Even the negative people make us into we are.
While negative influences can piss us off and motivate us to prove people wrong, an equally powerful thing that makes us is positive people. It makes things a lot easier. I wasn’t anywhere near a child prodigy. I’ve failed so many times. I never won a state title at the junior high level and I’ve had bad days in every season. What truly keeps me on course was supportive, positive people. My dad put in countless hours watching my film and studying training methods to help me. He was always positive and telling me to just stick with it and keep working hard. As I moved into my high school years, I had become close with wrestlers all over the state. One of those people was Seth Rich who is my best friend to this day. Seth and I didn’t go to the same high school but in the spring and fall we would train together and coincidentally, I started to hit my stride. Seth made me into the wrestler and person I am. His positive energy was contagious, and he wasn’t afraid to beat me up if I was being lazy in a workout. We became experts at having fun and working hard and we saw those benefits in competition. We had the same goals and we both had things to teach and things to learn. Those are the people that we all need to find.
The negative and positive people make us into who we are in their own unique ways. However, neither of those influences will do anything without conscious effort. If we choose to buy into the negativity, we’ll get knocked down and eventually held down. We must make a conscious choice to stay on our course. On the positive side, we have to choose who we listen to. Positive people are great, but if they aren’t honest, they’re useless. Truly positive people hold us to a high standard and are willing to get down in the trenches, bleed alongside us, and say things that might be hard to say. We need to know that those people are being candid from a state of love and be grateful for that honesty.
Recognize the things and people that made you into who you are and be grateful. Be grateful for the people that lit a fire in your belly whether they were naysayers, or a fantastic training partner. It doesn’t matter if you’re an elite athlete or the best pizza delivery driver of all time. You didn’t get to where you are on your own. Let those people who made you into you know that you’re grateful for their influence.