It’s absolutely okay to have an “off week.” It’s okay to not feel your best, perform your best, and live your best. In fact, I’m having one of those weeks myself. I have found myself on edge this week, reacting instead of responding, talking instead of listening, manifesting disappointment, and not having the fire desire within to get my ass up and go to the gym. I feel just a little, off.
Yes, even me, the dude who seems to have at all together, still endures stress, frustration, and disappointment. I’m not perfect, and neither are you. That’s just it though, you don’t have to be perfect. What you have to be is, aware. Aware when you feel a little off, recognizing your behaviors and understanding why you are attracting such people and situations. You must become conscious as to why you do what you do to attract the reality you are living.
You WILL have off days. Hell, maybe even off weeks or months. Life is a constant roller coaster with peaks and valleys. You must learn how to harness the lessons in the valleys to excel to new peaks. As this week has offered major opportunity to look within, I have learned a few things…
4. Never accept less than your standard.
Once you make the decision to set the bar for personal relationships, platonic and romantic, finances, school, work, faith, and your physical and emotional well-being, don’t accept any less than such standard.
This week, I have found myself accepting less than my standard when it comes to my family and physical well-being. Twice I have acted in old habit of not giving a fuck about what anyone around me feels like, and I have missed the gym two days in a row which I haven’t done sine before June.
What the fuck is wrong with me?
Nothing. Nothing is wrong with me. And nothing is wrong with you. If you notice acceptance of anything less than your standard, realize it, find the solution, act on it, and move on.
Never accepting less than your standard doesn’t mean there won’t be times your actions and life are not in reflection of the bar you have set. You will stray, falter, and come up short. It’s okay. We aren’t machines. We are human beings that make mistakes, a lot of them.
Never accepting less than your standard means when you’re faced with times of question, you answer correctly by making the changes required to win.
3. Let the fuck go.
I swear I say this way too often, yet, I have to remind myself of it daily. Let go of the people, feelings, and situations that continually hold you back. Let go of your past identities. Let go of fear, the fear of success, love, loneliness, failure, and freedom. Let go of the losers around you who don’t want to see you win. Let go of the bullshit excuses you come up with as to why you can’t do something and rather find strength in the thoughts and actions as to why you CAN. Let go of feelings creating walls to prevent love from flowing into your soul. Let go of all things that no longer serve your purpose.
You ain’t got no time for that shit. Let it go.
2. Meet people where they are.
Not everyone is going to be at the same place on their journey as you are. There will be people around you, maybe even sleeping in the same bed that are at a different place physically, emotionally and all other aspects of life. It’s okay, meet them where they are. Have no expectations of them and become ruler of your own expectations. If your Mom, Dad, brother, sister, boyfriend, wife, or coworker is living differently than you are, it’s okay, their journey is not yours, find common ground and keep pressing.
Too often have I found myself wanting to change people. People too often have wanted to try to change me too. As the adage goes… You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink. Such is life. Let people drink on their terms. If their incompetence and lack of urgency to win in life is drastically affecting your personal legend, refer back to lesson #2 and let them the fuck go.
1. Stray, don’t swerve.
You’re having an off day, week, or month. Not an off life. You can stray from the course but don’t swerve. You have come so far. You have overcome too much to go back. You are too strong, too loved, too phenomenal to allow yourself to retract back into old habits that no longer serve you.
If your week has been much like mine, it’s FUCKING OKAY! Yell that with me right now if you have had an off week, IT’S FUCKING OKAY! Scream that shit if you have to, I don’t care what you do. What I do care is what you do to change how you are feeling. I care what you decide to do next to regain traction and deliver your best self possible.
For me, I required a few tough conversations with myself yesterday and today. Instead of beating down the problem, I have accepted where I am at the moment and now am working toward a solution. If you require a few days to regroup, do it. It’s exactly what I required.
Stray, don’t swerve. Never accept less than your standard. Meet people where they are. Let the fuck go. You have come so damn far. Stay grinding.
Love you guys.