*Warning: The language used in this blog may not be suitable for all people. If you are easily offended, this blog is not for you.
You’re probably asking yourself, “What does this guy know about slumps?”
Actually, a lot. Instead of diving into my personal sob story of pains, failures, and mishaps, I’m going to leave that for a later date and instead deliver the five things you should do that have been my savior in times of slump.
If 2017 was a year ridden with many character building lessons, I feel you. Maybe you recently broke up with your significant other, lost your job, had a tough year in school, got seriously injured, or, maybe you simply find yourself living the same redundant, purposeless life and are ready to give a fuck, or five, about your life and your happiness.
If you find yourself much like I have in recent dates, it’s time for change. If your bed sucks you in until 3pm, it’s time for change. If your body screams of neglect, it’s time. It’s time to give a fuck. Give a fuck about your life, your health, future, career, purpose, family, and anything else that pulls at your heart strings.
Each Monday morning for the next five weeks I am going to post a blog on what I feel you should give a fuck about if you truly seek transformation. I suggest each Monday that you reread the blog posts from the week(s) prior. This will be a great way to receive the most out of the content.
It’s time, let’s begin.
1. Wake the fuck up.
Literally, wake up. Get out of bed. Fight the urge to hit the snooze button. Rip the covers back with force. Let the day know when your feet hit the floor that you’ve shown up. This is an attitude.
On day 1 you’re going to want to hop back in bed for a few more hours of sleep. I did. In fact, it took many inconsistent days of action powered by motivation and others directed by depression to be here today. The last five years have been a tetor-totor between moving forward and breaking through or staying in the prison of my own guilt, anxiety, and unresolved feelings. My bed was my safe haven from being defeated.
I was scared. Fearful of what I was actually capable of achieving if I went all-in. I was scared until I woke the fuck up.
Yes, I made the decision to get out of bed, but, also woke up in a much different way as well. Not so much about my eyes opening this time, rather, more about my mind opening.
Open yourself to the realization to all the things that do not serve your life’s purpose.
Ask yourself… Who are the negative people in my life? How am I acting upon my words? Am I treating my mind, body and spirit? Does my partner bring out my light or darkness? Am I fulfilled? Am I happy?
How honest are you willing to be to answer these questions? I used to lie to myself when I asked such brutal questions. I used to validate my inaction. Little did I know, I was rebelling against my true self. Some will call it the devil. Some call it depression. Call it what you want. What it is, is an act of absolute resistance from your true self.
Don't continue to be guided by the darkness, go find the light. It’s closer than it may appear. Let go of the resistance.
Right now, get up and go find mirror. Look yourself in the mirror and stare into your eyes for a while. Sit there with yourself, taking note on the feelings you are experiencing.
Are the feelings enjoyable? Are you uncomfortable? Is it hard to look at yourself in the eyes?
If so, I know how this feels. I’ve been there.
Now, as you look at yourself and initially experience feelings of discomfort come and now pass, allowing you to open to a deeper interpersonal connection as you gaze into your eyes. You will begin to feel a sense of power, almost like a new understanding you have with yourself.
As you stare, channel this energy. Take it in and wake the fuck up! Let your soul be free. Yell! Scream! Pound your chest! Whatever feels good, do that!
Vow on this this, right now, right here that you will only commit to doing what serves you. Let go of the shitty people in your life. Release the pain. Quit your job you always complain about and just get brutally honest with yourself.
Force yourself out of bed in the morning. Let your presence be known. Awaken yourself literally and metaphysically. Commit to your purpose and never, never give up on what you deserve.
If you’re alive, you have time. Happy Monday.